So if there's not OM, and if she's not making any arrangements to get herself ready to leave...it sounds like she is going to give you a life in limbo. Unsatisfactory. You'll need to take some steps to shake that up. Ask any of the guys on here who have been through limbo - you don't want it. Sounds like it is time to give her the "I have decided I don't want to live like this anymore" talk - where you let her know that her passive aggressive disposition against the M will not be tolerated any longer and that you are prepared to live without her if she is unwilling to turn the corner.
I still don't trust that trip to Tampa, though. Gotta tell ya. Greek
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