1. My spouse and i reunited last fall... still no sex.. beacuse SHE had the affair and I don't want to have sex. I suspect your H is feeling the same way - violated 2. I asked you for a list of your needs, you gave me one (two if you count the complaint)... That's your only need? Flowers and sex?
And I suspect you gave this to him verbally, not in writing yes?
I am not trying to beat you up here whatami, I want you to read your post and ask yoruself if a VIOLATED MAN is going to intuit from what you wrote there how to please you in every way you want?
If you can't tell us, I assume your H is at the same state of loss... AND he feels violated, which just leaves him uncomfortable...
I don't want to have sex because it is just going to remind me of OM, and I don't NEED that right now when I am trying to forget about him violating my wife...
