I'm asking b/c it seems to me that you are DBing - hanging in there, making the changes, doing the work - but she's not budging. Makes me wonder what (who) is standing in the way. Greek
She does have two "toxic friends". One, who I have known for 20 years. She is single, pushing forty, about 200 lbs overweight and has only had one boyfriend since I have known her. She has always been very clingy with my wife, and I have suspected that she has secretly been "in love" with her for years (whether she is conscience of it or not I don't know). In any event whenever I bring this up, I get dismissed with a laugh usually. If I bring up how tired I am of her tagging along all of the time, the wife gets defensive. This one tagged along with us over the weekend......only single person present with 5 other families.
The other "toxic friend" is the wife of my best friend who insists that she is "rooting for us" and "in our corner". That said, she has always been a TERRIBLE mother and has bossed my friend around for years. He runs the houshold and is pretty much the mother and the father duty wise. She is selfish, and is really the one who instigated all of the girl's nights out" to begin with. I believe she has been in "my wife's ear" for years telling her that "she deserves to be happy" and the like.
M: 39 W: 39 Kids (3): S10; S8; D4 Married 14 years Togethor: 18 years Wife's Weird Behavior Started: 2nd Half of 2009 Bomb Dropped (about being "so done"): 2/17/10 Current Status: In counseling
