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Our very first counselor said that I can't assume my H can read my mind. That I need to tell him what I need/want. So, I did that. It just made it worse because even when I told him what I wanted, he didn't follow through. One example is Valentine's Day. When we reunited and talked a lot about how to move forward, one of the things we talked about was how I like flowers. I said, with a smile, "I'll make it super easy for you......I want a dozen roses EVERY Valentine's Day. I know it bothers you to spend that kind of money on flowers and you don't like to send them when they are expected, but you never seem to do it other times so I just want them on Vday. A dozen. Red. You don't even have to think about it. Just order it." So......Valentine's Day comes around and...nope, no roses. He bought me perfume from a mall that he went ot while on a work trip. Nice, but once again, he doesn't know me or care about what I need/want. It's what sparked me to realize that it has been a year and nothing has changed. We have been together for a year and still haven't had sex. Who reunites, but then never has sex? Us! It didn't seem to bother him. This has been an issue for a long time.

Ok....so what needs of mine aren't being met? I don't feel like I can connect with him on any deep level. How can he connect with me that way? I don't know. The hurt is deep. He could try to share his feelings more, not just superficial ones either.....this is what the counselor is talking to him about. I don't think he is capable of thinking for himself. He is void of personality. It's not just me, it's at work, too. He's the type of guy you don't want to get stuck talking to, because he says things that you have to fake laugh at, and then try to keep the conversation going on your own. There is nothing interesting about him in my opinion. I'm not attracted to him.