I agree with everything you've said here (and above) 100%, but at some point, don't you think the time for talking, teaching, educating, and persuading ends?
Tens of thousands of WORDS have been given to OIN here, and thousands of those have been conveyed from him to his wife. The only thing she's going to understand at this point, in my opinion, is ACTION, BOUNDARIES and CONSEQUENCES.
My mentor when I was going thru my sitch, NOPkins, used to say "You can't teach an infidel." I think that's about right.
These posts, conversations, etc., between OIN and his wife this week are exactly the same as they were a month and a half ago. They are STUCK, dead STUCK.
I don't think any amount of "educating" is going to change that, as "correct" as the curriculum may very well be.
