You deliberately mislead myself, people at work, and violated someone's marriage.
We both are having trouble trusting each other right now and offering ourl ives up OPENLY is ONE WAY professional therapists reccomend to REBUILD TRUST that's been DAMAGED.
I am cooperating here rather than fighting, are you willing to cooperate or do you want this to be a fight - if you want to fight then the fight is YOUR OWN, NOT MINE.
And when she hands you the phone and you hand her yours... let he go through yorus... don't even LOOK at her phone.. just hold it until she's done with yours then exchange them back.
When your wife asks why find simple precise ways to get a point across, dont' ARGUE back, just state the facts like the above sample and wait for a response.
A marriage isn't a mistake, it's a choice you make EACH DAY... A choice to work WITH your partner, or AGAINST them... Your choice here... But if this doens't work and I am cooperating then we know who is sending this marriage into the toilet, and it won't be me...
And set your phone down in front of her and watch...
Each time you have a chance, sneak in some education.. she will likely dismiss it, but it WILL sit in her brain a while...
If she refuses to hand over her phone after saying the above then just walk away.
