I think this is my home for the next 6 months...

[beingreal]

Thank you everyone, I do appreciate you. Every one of you.

I feel like I need to clarify something...

I don't think he's hard-core, steal-your-grandma's-wedding-ring addicted.

I think he's using, hiding behind it & using it to cope--but full on addict, I don't think so.

Of course I could be wrong.

I don't know that it matters much right this minute,

Just having been down this path before, I know there is a difference between using, using a lot & addicted. I may get 2x4d for this--BUT when he is using, even using heavily, there are still those moments of lucidity wherein he thinks about reality. If he were full on addicted, it would be game over, not for me, just in general because there is no reality for an addict.

I talked to his mom, she's pretty convinced I'm right. She's not happy with him at all. He says she's blaming him for everything. I didn't mean to drag her into this, yet I am so glad for their support.

I want to go dark, BUT I'm afraid that I'll only get partially dim with the kids, I do plan on doing more communicating with his mom about the care of the kids while they are there. That should limit contact quite a bit between us. He called today, he's going to be in town & will just bring them home. He talked to me like yesterday never happened.

Maybe in his mind it didn't

Yes, I know every sentence has a *BUT* in it.