And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

Thanks pandora! At first I thought H was just a WAH (it's a big piece of what we've got going on) but there is definitely an MLC component too so I try to keep up on both ...

This is soooooo true, and I've been reminded of the need for patience so often on here. This is where my compassion comes from. I've said it once and I'll say it again. My H must be in serious pain to have felt pushed to a point where the only way he could imagine ending his pain was to walk away from his wife and family. Add to that the fact that he's now questioning who he is and what he wants (and remembering that we had a terrible year and lost someone very close to us) ... it's a definite MLC/WAH combo at it's worst. I'm not shouldering the blame ... but I am very aware of my contributions to the dynamic, and if I'm really honest, I'm also aware of his attempts over the years to make things better or to talk to me about how it was making him feel. I couldn't hear him. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to see me *effortlessly* make some of these changes - now that it has come to this.

Slow and steady, making real changes for ME and learning to loosen up and enjoy the ride

Peace
PEI