at first I was focusing on WHEN we were going to make it ... now I'm just going to focus on me and believe I, and we, will survive this
this is great! i will have to hold onto this to keep some sort of hope alive!
will add mars/venus to my book collection...thanks for mentioning it!
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I realize just how unempowered he was
i *think* for men, this is huge. i'm in a similar sitch where control, acceptance and validation were also an issue. i can now see how much pain and hurt i caused my H. part of a backslide i believe i had last week was really hurting him after he started to feel safer. it's like he opened up and boom!, i just whacked him over the head and reminded him that i am still controlling (i didn't even realize this until the coach walked me through it). and it was a good lesson learned to NOT snoop!
you know i read this really interesting thread from a WAS that shed some light on what can bring the LBS to where they are (although MLC is a diff't beast so it may not be relevant). i'll share it here if you're interested.
