Right, well, no not at the point, and I'm not sure my kids will ever see another full-on relationship model. I'm hoping to hold it at bay until I'm sure this is what is good for us, or if it's just good for me. And I do mean "good." And I don't mean to sell myself short, but there are some behaviors that are fine for me to be involved in and not my children. For instance, while I can take the "cat-like" behavior, to a point, that is not something I want modeled for my children.

They know about his disorder and are able to chalk his behavior up to that. I don't tell them about the other stuff. Plus, they haven't even met yet.

Oh, so I guess this answers FA's (?) question about living together. Who did ask that? I'll check...

I told my counselor that I am in no rush. I have all the time in the world. Marriage isn't on my docket at the present time, and I am really not that into dating.I plan to maintain my friendships and relationships with my children, and if there happens to be a man along the way, so be it, but I'm not going out of my way to find romantic love. At least, not at this point, nor, as far as I can tell, in the near future. So, why not just be patient?

I honestly stymie myself with my reactivity, because I have SO MUCH other junk going on in my life, that sometimes, I truly am thankful for his withdrawal, except for the implication, and that's what gets me. lol.

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