He's expressed the things that have hurt him in the past, and his fears. I've got a pretty good idea about the trouble spots. In some ways, he does demonstrate that he trusts me.
Well, I do understand about the "locking in." I think that, since his longest relationship was 5 years, getting past that point would be HUGE! I'm not asking for marriage. lol. I'm just asking for more consistency and less skittishness, but perhaps he is just the type that needs longer to engage at the point many would by 10 months, as you suggest.
I keep coming back to your last statement, as that is something my counselor pointed out. The issue I have with this thought is that I "fell for him" before he reminded me of anyone I know, with some exception, which I'll get to. lol. I know there are subtle hints and cues, but honestly, he is different in so many ways from people that I might try that with. At first, the person he reminded me most of was myself. In fact, with the apparent reevaluation he keeps doing, as it appears to me, he STILL reminds me of myself. lol. In his interests and some mannerisms, he reminds me of my son. Okay, that didn't flesh out either, until later. lol.
I recently told him that he seems to be jumping through hoops, and I guessed that this is because he's learned from his past and isn't wanting to make the same mistakes with me, but some are so odd, that I told him that he may be wasting his energy to try to do them. I reminded him that I'm not anyone of his past, but I am uniquely me, with different expectations. I learned from my past, too, and think I'm doing something very similar. heh.
Okay, that didn't flesh out either, until later. lol. 