Maybe I didn't blow it?

[james217]

Thanks for the replies y'all.

I'm doing a lot of good thinking here tonight. I've cried a bit. I've been angry quite a bit, but I feel like I am at least processing the situation now.

The situation is dire.

I have switched from wondering if I can ever forgive my wife for leaving me and "dating" someone, to not caring anymore if I can.

I just honestly don't know if I can ever be with her again after this. I've gone from wanting to save my marriage to wanting to just get away from the hurt and the lies and horribleness of how emotionally draining this woman is on me.

I have 0 trust for her. I don't even know where SHE would have to begin to rebuild that trust, and, quite honestly, I don't think she has it in her to even try.

The fact remains, separations lead to divorce more often that not. Way more often that not, and couple that with a separation including dating and cheating...

Well...

Yeah.

Time for me to mosey on outta this.



The best part out of all of this, btw... Is that I was genuinely starting to feel like she was starting to come around and warm up to me again for real, and then this.

It's so ironic that after 5 months of trying to get her to pay attention to me again, as soon as she does, I find something out that causes me to tell her it's over.

Like I said man I know how you feel. I don't know why they do it. there's no logic to their behaviour.

I've been racking my brain on that for the past 3 months.

no one can decide for you when you're ready to give up. Just make sure that's what you really want to do.....