The thing that's really frustrating is knowing that my wife's depression is the key to this whole thing, but feeling helpless to do anything for her. I know the depression's the key, because I went through something similar in my early 20's. I went through a 2-year period of depression where I had pushed everyone away from me, including my step-parents, and the only thing that snapped me out of it was a car accident that killed 3 of my friends. It's really a damn shame that it took a crisis to wake me up. It's an even worse shame having gone through that life experience, and now being helpless to help my own wife...the woman I love...