The mixed signals are part of this...you can make a move and see how she responds. You could talk to her about the R. But see what the wise ones have to say!! (vets)

And as for telling her to move into the spare bedroom- why? I could see if she repeatedly tells you she wants to divorce you and still wants to sleep in your bed that it would be confusing. Is this why? When was the last time she said she wanted a D?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004