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Okay, so a summary of things I'm asking for/needing/wanting from this board:

--help with 180, feedback and tweaking, along with accountability.
--any other insight into how to deal with my boundaries (which are apparently sloppily applied). My counselor suggested I reread Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend.
--how to get out of this quagmire of inequality, without necessarily giving up the R. Is there a way?


What are your goals? Is one to not react when he tries to get your goat? Do you also want him to initiate more contact/time with you?

What is he doing that is causing you to want boundaries in place?

How do you feel your R is inequitable?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004