And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[Truegritter]

I figure if and when he's ready to come back, facing his own shame is going to be hard enough, I don't need to be adding to it!

You are on it girl.

This is the right way to look at this. It(his choices) is not about you.

H is on his own journey, hopefully (right?) he will grow into a person YOU will have back.

Punishing them only means you have not healed...