hey PEI, so i noticed you're a big advocate of 'how to improve your marriage without talking about it.' i have found it to be one of the best i've read too. it speaks volumes to me and understanding the male/female fear/shame dynamic is fascinating. it helps put things in so much perspective now.
This is one of my faves! I'm reading Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus right now - and finding this one a huge help too! An oldie but a goodie!
Originally Posted By: pandora
btw, did you consider getting a db coach? it has been a huge help for me and she has helped me to understand that i need to make a safe space for H to come back to. i asked a while back about the mlc thing and she said, i would still have the same approach we discussed but would just take longer. by far, the best thing i've done so far and it's tailored to your sitch.
I've been speaking with DB Coach Cheryl a few times since late March. I'm currently saving so I can call again ... I LOVE her perspective and have found her extremely helpful! The 'safe place' thing is huge. I figure if and when he's ready to come back, facing his own shame is going to be hard enough, I don't need to be adding to it!
Skipped the dancing, but the movie was great ... hope you had a great weekend too!
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
