Thankyou NM, I am feeling quite fit 7 days on. Bub feeding well, every 3 hrs I would say and it's been much easier since my milk came in few days ago (her sleep is deeper). She wieghed 3.6 kgs and is back to her birth weight already, and has rosy cheeks and no signs of jaundice. She never really fit into her 0000 sized clothes, so she's in her 000's.
Yes! WH was squeezing and squishing her! Funny you say that! I'm quite relieved he is not the only father that does that...I should say he also looks to be less and less clumsy with her, more relaxed and confident with each visit, but still takes all cues from me.
For the moment, my WH wants to see her often - it's not stated, just obvious. Since his life is still up in the air ( I don't know, he doesn't know when he is leaving...he still is trying to secure work for starters & is still in a friend's spare bedroom...it's obvious he has been waiting for the birth to see how things pan out before deciding whether to leave or not!), I don't dare ask or lay down a long term visitation schedule with him. Perhaps I should suggest a short term one?
He initiated a 2hr visit today. His 4th in 6 days. He seems besotted. More photos. I guess "loving" a child and wanting to parent them two different things for some nutty people. WH has not stated he would like to co-parent her because I guess that would mean comitting to stay in the country and possibly ruin chances with OW. Out of interest, he did say during a bad argument that he would be happy to take the baby back to Europe and parent her there...!! Sans moi, obviously.
Nothing else exceptional happened other than that he asked me how I was feeling post the birth (said I looked great & asked if there was a change in how I felt hormonally from the time I was pregnant to post birth...?? I replied that my whole life was changed, and I didn't think much about my hormones. He also asked a bit more about the birth itself. I felt these questions were inapporpriate. I wouldn't tell the postman about this stuff!
