Hey Lan,
My BF's parents marriage was over by the time he was 8 and his Mum started an A with his Dads best friend (jee-eez). She waited till the kids were old enough (16 and 18) before separating and moving the bf in.

What my bf remembers from his childhood is... that his parents never kissed or showed affection, that there was an atmosphere in the house and that his Dad seemed depressed and withdrawn.

If the parents had split and lived separately and been 'ok' with that and happier, instead of forcing all 4 to live in a husk of a situation, who knows, maybe my bf wouldnt have been a ticking time bomb. We'll never know hey.

Your sitch with you and W as roommates and frostiness and lack of affection and your D noticing.. may not be setting her a good example of a loving R? And kids internalise. My BF had a tonne of guilt, because his Dads unhappiness was palpable and he some how winded up feeling responsible. And he 'blew' when he got depressed himself and blamed our R ("I dont want to end up like my Dad").

I am sure you have debated this with yourself endlessly.
Enjoy the world cup! Al x

Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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