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Did he make offers like that when you were more giving with him? Just wondering.


Yes....you know something I realized. In the BIG PICTURE of this whole last year, before the visitation change and so far after the change, WH's behavior hasn't changed. Oh sure, maybe he looked at me longer one day or he asked a question or 2 about where I was going. But seriously-

he has consistently been "nice"
he has consistently offered to help
he has consistently been a good dad
he has consistently wanted to connect with me about S
he has consistently said he will move forward with "the paperwork" (in fact, he has consistently avoided calling the divorce a divorce and has referred to it as "the paperwork!")
he has consistently avoided presenting me with paperwork- has yet to do anything abotu the D!

oh wait- one day when I was short with him about S, a few days after he told me he wanted to D, he was irritated with me for being short.

So what do I make of this?

Last edited by newmama; 05/31/10 04:25 AM.
me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004