What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[newmama]

+ He said he could try to install the carseat. It ended up taking probably 35 minutes. He was rather frustrated. I was apologetic. Then I realized I was apologetic and I switched to just being appreciative. I specifically said "I really really appreciate this; I could have never done it myself."

+ I didn't want to end with such frustration, so I asked if he wanted frigerated club soda. He said no. I asked if he was sure and he said okay. So I ran in and got him some. I'm very glad I was able to do that. I know it's something he wanted.

WELL DONE! BRAVO!!!

Bad stuff:

+ He didn't appear too interested in the baby. Asked nothing about her.

IMO- He feels guilty. (as he should)

+ He cried a couple of times. (I don't know if this is bad, but it's not good.)

same as above- they cry because they feel bad about themselves for doing this...not for you. GRRRRR! (IMO of course)

+ The carseat was pretty frustrating and probably reinforced his whole "I can't do this" feeling

I was thinking that he succeeded in doing a difficult task and you were appreciateive- and obviously he could see that it would be really hard for you to install( being 9 months pregnant!) so it might have helped him feel like he did something to help. In short, IMO I think the car seat was a GOOD THING (as Martha would say, lol!)

I wonder if he was talking about that guy who nodded at me. We actually saw him twice, so. . .

I bet you he was!!!!!

Overall, I have peace. I am worried about his fatherhood still. He didn't embrace that as much as I hoped he would.

Don't worry- you will just have to wait and see. Some men truly don't "get it" until the baby is born. Did he attend any ultrasounds? I can't remember.

Wow, it really sounds so positive over all!! When will you see him next?