Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

that's the thing, I have done so much work on myself and this marriage and all she has done is cause more damage.

I made 180s, I got the help I needed. She lives in the past and fails to see the present OIN.

I start to think that when people say "make the changes and your WAS will notice" is a myth but I still made the changes to better myself.

As for the controlling part, yes I am caught up in her nonsense but I am just trying to protect myself. I won't sit back and let my W damage our marriage by being a dishonest cheat.