I am 39 and she is 27. We have been together since she was sixteen. I met her right after her dad died. He was a very strong force in her life and didn't let her even talk to guys that he didn't approve of. She has never recovered and is still angry at God every day for his death. She is a very angry person, but also private so she bottles everything inside. I believe that's why she snapped when her nephew died. She told me today that she has never made her own decisions and just went with the flow because when her dad died she became afraid of everything. It took her a long time just to get a license.
Her anger did not help our relationship. She withdrew from me almost instantly when our relationship began to have problems. When I met her, her mother was in severe depression, dealing with alcoholism and hopelessness. She basically gave her daughter to me because she couldn't take care of her. I did. I feel as if our relationship is hopeless. She feels as if I stole her childhood from her. If she can't forgive God, how is she ever going to forgive me?
My ex-wife cheated on me, but I've come to realize lately during conversations with my wife, that my insecurities are the least of my problem.
