hey PEI, so i noticed you're a big advocate of 'how to improve your marriage without talking about it.' i have found it to be one of the best i've read too. it speaks volumes to me and understanding the male/female fear/shame dynamic is fascinating. it helps put things in so much perspective now.
btw, did you consider getting a db coach? it has been a huge help for me and she has helped me to understand that i need to make a safe space for H to come back to. i asked a while back about the mlc thing and she said, i would still have the same approach we discussed but would just take longer. by far, the best thing i've done so far and it's tailored to your sitch.
just my 2 cents. btw, hope you enjoyed dancing and the movie!
