Look you have EVERY Right to be angry - you do. You seem really angry, really pissed. Hell FTR so DO I. So (and you knew this was comming) what r u going to do? IMO you have two choices.
You can stay pissed off - file say f it and try and move on with your life as a wounded soul or...
You could say to yourself - hey I one hell of a f'in mom and women but I have a few things on want to work on so let me focus on that.
As a CHANGED man - let me say to you that H may change. A big stress on Lmay" cause honestly no one on these boards can tell u that your H will change. What we can tell you is that YOU will change if u want to.
So do you want to react in anger or do you want to react from a position of strength?
You are a very strong women Shelbel- at least that what I can see. Having said this who is the real Shelbel? You know the one that exist when no one is around. What does that Shelbel want? What is that Shebel willing to pay for?
Let me save u having to read all of my old posts.
Shelbel - I was a f'in mess when the bomb was dropped. A mess. Me W was the sweetiest person you could have met prior to all of this. Me? Well I was ur typical puerto rican macho make with a ton of pride. My W never had anything she could call her own. Never had a sense of independance. Never had a sense of self. Never. Because of this she now feels entitled to whatever it is she wants. FTR - my D will hurt not only emotionally but financially as well. This though is not the point I want to make. The poiny that I REALLY want u to think about is this? If one of your boys was acting like a selfish child what would do? How would you react? Would you give him the keys to your car? I bet not.
Your H right now is a f'ing child - do U really want him watching ther kids right now?
Shelbel - you are angry and that is good. Feel and process the anger and then let is go. Your children need an adult and right now that is YOU..
God Bless and try to have a better weekend. Focus on ther positive and not the negatives.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
