So I decided that if he thought I might have my own life that included other men who found me attractive, GOOD.
Oh, I see. It wasn't about making him think you had another man, but that others found you attractive. Do I have that right? I'm sorry if I was wrong on that point. I thought that because of the phone call, you were wanting him to think you were actually dating someone else.
However, at the point of separation, I have very little issue with dating, but pretending to date, yeah, that would be a problem for me.
I did think about this more, and one does need to weigh out their comfort level with such things. For example, I was brought up to think that divorce was one of the cardinal sins. Well, I still believe that it is horribly damaging. My choice was whether or not to stay in an abusive situation that was costing me my individuality and much effort I could be putting toward my children or to divorce. Both were certainly unpalatable and mutually exclusive. I had a difficult choice to make.
Sometimes, one is put in the position of choosing one unethical thing or another, and I respect anyone who can do so and come through with a shred of sanity. It actually sounds like a job well-done on your part.
