Hey BD- Feel the anger fully, don't act out on it any more. Don't text or call him! If he contacts you, ignore! (Maybe even have the cell phone put a 3-day bounceback on his texts or something! I don't know if they do that.)
You can do a lot of these baby preps with other friends and family. He wants to be there, but he DOESN'T need to be. You can be very happy to do it without him.
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
Maybe instead of "being positive" and thinking H will come back, I should think positive about my future as a single mom.
I think you meant this sincerely, and I think it's a really good idea. That's true detachment and moving forward. Maybe he will respond to it and try to pull you back, but maybe he won't. Either way, you'll have a more peaceful pregnancy and you'll be happier.
Then, if you want to change things up (go bo peep) after the birth, you can.
You've probably got 5 weeks until the birth, right? Celebrate NC!
I just want to impress that NC before the birth is not a negative thing. You're not missing out on anything (like a good pregnancy), and you can start to create a peaceful, safe environment for your S and yourself and *maybe* (if he comes down to Earth) your H.
