i called him about a hundred times with no answer!! i'm so stupid what should i do? please, someone....
Stop calling yourself names for having human feelings, and stop calling him, and do something (even if it is just stuff like household chores, but fun stuff is better) for yourself instead.
Give yourself some time to settle down and think about what you want instead.
Like it or not, understand it or not, the leavers grieve the M too. The papers could have been a trigger for him. You don't know what he is thinking, so stop trying to read his mind, and whatever happens, I promise you that you can have a better life than you ever imagined.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 05/30/1008:53 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
saturday i had issues with having my swamp cooler serviced and wanted to talk to him about it (ok yeah it was an excuse) and i called him about a hundred times with no answer!! i'm so stupid what should i do? please, someone....
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Stop calling yourself names for having human feelings, and stop calling him,
I agree, please don't call yourself stupid. You aren't stupid. You are smart, but calling him was a stupid thing to do.
Stop calling him and go do something fun. He will most likely start to wonder what you are doing, and possibly even begin to miss talking with you. How can he miss you if you won't go away?
after much thought and quiet meditation this weekend, this is what i have written out for you, as you requested -
I will take care of you the same as now through the end of the year. After the end of the year I will pay your rent on a place through the end of next May, and keep paying for your auto insurance, cell phone and health insurance.
I will ask that you move out of the house before the end of the year so that I can get it ready to sell in the spring. Houses are staying on the market for six months to a year so I feel I should list it as soon as possible. I will help you lease your own place over near UNM or somewhere you like. When the house sells I will split the proceeds with you 50/50.
These are the terms I am offering after much thought. I don’t care when you want to finally sign a piece of paper that says we are officially divorced, whether its next week or next year. I can leave this decision up to you. These are just the terms I am offering to be divorced and to have peace with you.
i hope that we can continue to talk
HAHA IN HIS DREAMS!!! My attorney will NOT allow for this.
uhmmmm.... he just left a message asking me out to lunch!! it hurts too bad to see him. It's like getting a fix of a drug. i'm not calling him back. I can't. am i ruining my chances? where is everyone? sandi??
Hey Sweetie, I see you are still holding on. Don't get discouraged if nobody answers right away, weekends & holidays are slow on the board, but things will start to pick back up today.
I'm thinking I would not be very encouraging about a man such as your H. He has made it very plain that he does not want to be M to you. You said that he beat you....so I think there is no excuse for those actions and that you are much too classy to be with a wife beater! I feel that he uses you by calling and keeping your wound open and raw. It is not being a gentleman at all. It sounds to me like he wants you in bed but not as a wife. That is not respectful.
I did not know he was M before. I remember asking, but I must have missed that somewhere. Anyway, he appears to be very unstable for his age and I do not think he is to be trusted, from what you have said about him. Please, please do not agree to any of his proposals without your lawyer being completely satisfied with it. I can't believe he thought you would allow him to represent you in his own D case!! Does he think you are stupid? Well, I think you are very smart, but you have been taken in by this slick talker and did not see his real side until you fell in love with him. Save yourself and move on in your life.
You are too special to settle for this wife beater! Why should you stay with a man who talks to you the way he does? You can do much better for yourself. Please stop thinking so lowly of yourself.
You are a bright and pretty girl and you can have a great life, but I think if you try to stay with him that you will be hurt even more than you are right now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
thank you sandi, youre so sweet. wouldn't it still be nice if i got to tell him no in the end? heheh. i guess that a pipe dream. no, he doesnt want me in bed. he wants me to be his 'friend', so he can make a nice divcorce. didn't call him back. just sent a text saying 'i'm working.'
Don't respond to him and don't take the invitation. After you don't respond, he'll probably send a message like "are you mad at me for something?" You just see.
He's testing you. Don't fall for it. Don't let him shake you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
thank you so much for your support everybody, i really need it. when i check this is in the morning and see stuff it helps me start my day off great. i had to talk with him about money. we spoke on the phone and he started talking crap about 'this is why i left you', throwing my vacation in my face and stuff. i told him that i cold just as easily list the reasons why I left him if he hadn't beat me to the punch. he appologized and hung up and then called right back and asked if he could come pick up a ladder. he showed up eating something (typical rudeness), and lingered. i pretended to be reading and just kind of ignored him. he asked me what i was reading and i told him. then he asked if i wante dto 'walk him out the garage'. huh? i said 'o.k.'. then he says 'call me if you want to talk', and i said 'about what', and then say 'If you want to talk, call me'. i have a life (much mor ethan he does), infact, i can;t even find any time for myself i have so many friends and stuff! i'm even casually dating. so, then get this-HE CALLS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS to 'check my tempurature'!! he asks her if 'i'm going ot ruin me' now, this friend of mine is really manipulative and has convinced him that she is on his side and that it's safe for him to call her!! so, he is concerned that i will report the 'incident'. Most likely that the only reason he's nice at all. ever. i could ruin his life, reputation, and his career. and THIS is as nice as he is to me. i don;t think he gives a rat's a@@ whether we ever get back together, do you guys? maybe now i should just be as calculating and calous as him he totally used me and broke my heart and abused me and the abandoned me and now wants nothing but for me to go away into the night.
