My story in a nutshell: Husband left me 3 1/2 weeks ago. Last conversation was HORRIBLE! We have had no contact for 2 weeks because he told me never to call him again - so I haven't.
FAST FORWARD TO TODAY .....
He called twice this morning (I was still asleep, didn't get his messages until a few minutes ago). He wants to come over today to drop off checks/pay bills and pick up any mail for him that post office has not yet forwarded to his new address.
I told him that now is not a good time for me. We haggled on the time until finally arriving at an agreed upon time of 7pm this evening - when he gets finished golfing.
I don't want him over here now because I haven't showered yet or anything. I want to be clean, have my hair and makeup done and have on nice clothes when he gets here. I want him to see me in a good light - even if he does hate me, and even if I am falling apart inside. I at least want to have the appearance that I've got a life, that I'm moving forward and somewhat happy.
Having read DR and almost all of SSM, I feel armed with knowledge, so I'm not going to cry, nag, pursue, beg, plead, or any of that crap. I'm just going to be cheerful and happy and try to look my best. Maybe - just maybe he'll realize what he's missing/throwing away.
In another thread, where my story is posted, one of the posters suggested I contact him and apologize to him for my part in all of this (this was before today's new developments), and I decided against doing this because it isn't a good idea at this time - since I was told in unequivocal terms never to call him. When he says never to call him what he really means is ... never to call him.
Should I apologize and not expect anything from him in return, basically, just say what I need to say and leave it at that? Or, should I not do this at this time?
How should I act? What should I say or do? What should I NOT do? HELP!!!!!!! I don't want to blow it - I have been in constant prayer for the restoration of my marriage and family, and a complete change for the better in our relationship. Obviously, I will continue to pray throughout the day, but I would like some really good advice and suggestions from people who have been in my shoes, or who are in my shoes now. Thank you so much, you guys!!!!!
