Maybe I didn't blow it?

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I am in full on anger mode right now. I find myself sincerely wishing for her to be miserable.

Thats not healthy.

I wrote up a big long letter to her, and considered posting it here, but I don't see the point in sending it.

It was basically just me telling her that she is dead wrong about me having an affair, and then I go off about how disgusted I am with her and her actions and how I have no desire to see her again, much less remain married to her.

Probably not worth even saying, at this point.

Kon,

I would think that your wife is accusing you in retrospect as a diversion tactic. Would your W have spoken up at the time, if she really believed that to be the case? You know the truth. Don't buy into the b.s. that your W is trying to feed you. My H said the same to me numerous times; smokescreen to cover his own a$$.

Writing out your feelings/thoughts is a healthy productive way to release your anger. It is pointless for you to share this w/your W. You know what is going on, she knows what's going on. You know she is going to lie.

I personally would tell her about due to her actions you have no desire to remain M to her. I've said those exact words to my H 6 times in the last month or so. Must of sunk in, b/c he filed this week.

Hang in there. It's tough, but you'll get thru.