OK so I have been doing a lot of research on addiction and I am now convinced that he has a problem.
I spoke to a counselor this morning that says I need to get his family involved and possibly do an intervention. I'm going to speak with DB coach tomorrow about this and obviously am not going to just jump into anything.
I understand I am not able to change anyone but I am the ONLY person that knows about these behaviors. He is living a double life. He is putting himself in danger - physically and emotionally. Aside from our marriage he needs help. If I try and he does not take help and least I could say that I tried and I can move forward. Right now I feel like I'm watching someone self destruct and I'm not even making an effort to get them help.
There is going to be a intervention specialist calling me today to go over more things about what they think I should do and give feedback.
At this point I'm not even sure if this is about our marraige anymore. I love him - I want our marriage to work but this problem he has is so much bigger than any of that. He needs to get healthy. DBing, etc is absolutely pointless when dealing with someone like this. I don't believe he is based in reality.
I could see on the phone GPS that at 9am this morning he was at the horse tracking/casino. It's just like his life revolves around these activities.
What are everyone's thoughts? I feel really alone right now and I don't know the "right" or "wrong" thing. I don't know what to do.
Also, the counselor made me feel better by saying that many addicts will blame problmes on other people. My husband never had sex with me - it was horrible. We would go 2-5 months with no sex, I would try to initiate and he would reject me and say it was because of my weight, or he wasn't in the mood, or he was tired. And then I would catch him several hours later looking at porn (guess he wasn't too tired for that). It made me feel horrible about myself.
