WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

Having a hard time getting motivated today. I've been lounging around thinking for too long now and need a kick in the butt. I'm not that flexible though.

My mom has started the victim thing...worried about losing touch with my kids though I assured her before that I wouldn't let that happen. I thought it would happen closer to her moving out, but I guess not... She got upset because I asked to be left alone and not bothered. She's been doing the same thing H used to do. Trying to do things for me that I can do on my own. Neither of them get that all I want is the freedom to do things (or not) and make mistakes on my own. I feel incapable when I'm smothered. She's being codie and I'm trying to stand on my own.

Example- I had been considering ways to renovate the basement so maybe she wouldn't have to move, that maybe the extra space would be enough.

Left the dishes undone in the sink from Fri night to Sat afternoon. I hear her stomping around the kitchen talking aloud how they would not get done by themselves, blah blah.

It took her less than a day to forget/ignore the discussion we had that I wanted her to stop taking over everything re: laundry, dishes that I needed to be more independent.

I told her nope, renovations would not work.

Today she huffed and puffed and finally went out by herself and told me to tell the kids she'd see them in the morning (insert whiny voice here)