Not sure if you can either ask for or demand respect from your W. She must decide when and if to give it to you. Asking for or demanding respect right now is a sure fire way to an argument (or sigh, scoff, or eye roll).
OIN can't demand respect. He can, however, demand to be treated respectfully, with common courtesies and civility that one would give a stranger, and remove himself from the situation when she doesn't do it. A subtle -- but important -- distinction.
