I'm researching and ran across your thread, Lanzo. Can I point something out that stuck out to me? You mentioned that you had issues when your parents split but didn't when you were a child. It seems to be you are repeating the process, no? Is that what you want for your Daughter? Is that to be your legacy to her?
Don't get me wrong. I am in a similar situation as far as STBX and the living arrangements. But for the financial situation I would not.
It is maddening. It is crazy. It is painful to see it on the kids faces. It is wrong. It is not healthy, is it?
Like you, I go kicking and screaming. Now that I am no longer dragging my feet, I can't seem to move fast enough. Still not what I want, but I cannot go back either. It's not that there are other women that I date. It's that I cannot live in this situation and I cannot let my kids dangle and suffer. It's that I have to admit that STBX is done. Finished. And therefore I have to move on. I cannot provide stability for my kdis in this situation as long as it continues. I will therefore change the situation as far as it is in my control and is safe for them. And myself.
World cup, huh? Who's your favored?
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
