So although she wants it, it doesn't sound like it's what she needs at the moment.
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On the other hand, trying to be there for her and assist her in her darkest, most depressed days has not been working very well either.
You know what they say... when you know something isn't working very well, you HAVE to try something else.
Originally Posted By: any chance?
I am just massively frustrated, and don't know what path to take. I want to continue to be NC, but have a little voice inside me telling me to send her a brief email giving her support during her deep depression.
Oh AC, think this through. Every single time you've reached out to her, you've gotten emotionally clobbered - either right then or a day or so later. Is that really in your best interest? Consider this, I know you've been regularly willing to let her pull you into her tumbles in the short term, with the idea that it is supporting her. However, what's going to happen in the long term if you continue this pattern? If she puts you through this pain every time you reach out to her, in the long term you'll end up so mistrustful, hurt and emotionally bruised that you won't be ABLE to reconnect with her, even if she comes out of her depression and realizes she's made an error in trying to end your M. And that won't be in EITHER of your best interests. I know that's not where you'll want to be.
Originally Posted By: any chance?
Am I totally off base here?
I don't know AC, I know my frame of reference is distinctly different from yours at the moment... but I just can't see how continually subjecting yourself to her tumbles is going to get you to where you want to be in the long run. In fact, it could actually prevent it. Hopefully someone else chimes in with some comments who've been through the same sitch - perhaps they could offer you something more concrete. I wish I had something more to offer but just want to say hang in there. PG.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
