It's hard to remember that they are grieving too because they are the ones that wanted a divorce.
I think you and I are about in the same place with our STBXs: they have filed (I will be served this coming week, you have already signed), the "should I stay or should I go", limboland dance is ending, and now it's all about contacts to remind us that it is happening or over guilt or sadness.
I don't know know how you respond to those type of notes either. If I had to answer them, the honest answer would be "No, I don't hate you, but I am grieving the loss of my M in my own way, and No, I don't see any reason for idle chit chat just because you are feeling sad or guilty".
But I wouldn't send those responses because it would just set me back. Maybe ask your IC.
It is weird how we, in our grieving, find it hard to imagine our WAS is grieving too, and how they cannot seem to understand we are grieving as well. It's a total disconnect.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
