I try to understand but I think that if someone would have just told me what I needed to do I would have done it.
In so many M's the W "does" try to tell her H what he needs to do, but he's not listening b/c he has not been hit with the bomb. It is afterwards....when she's "done" and ready to leave that he is ready to listen. Anyway, you are all ears now, so hopefully you'll have a second chance. The test will be if she decides to stay and you have to keep up the changes. I am seeing people who were here on the board a few years ago coming back again. They would go back into their old habits/patterns and the M would once again be on the rocks. Don't let that happen to you.
Her diabetes can certainly affect her mood swings. Is she Type 1? Is she sleeping a lot during the daytime?
I never was drawn to porn so I really don't know much from the woman's POV. Has this just started?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
