Upside, I understand what you are saying, but he can't be the man that you married while he's suffering from depression. People in depression, if left untreated, can take years to have the fog lift completely, if ever.
Yes, you love him and you have every right to want to have that love returned to you the same way, but he's incapable of that right now. The carrot does get dangled quite a bit during the final stages of mlc and it's very frustrating.
If he doesn't sign the papers and file them, you will have the opportunity to just let him go on baking and you remain as you are, i.e., married to him or can you not file yourself? If he does file the papers, the opportunity will arise for him to bake up fully on his own and out of your life. You, on the other hand, will have the freedom to move on and if God is willing, meet someone and remarry. For now, it's in God's hands as to what will transpire on Tuesday.
I do hope and pray that everything will work out for you. It's tough when you are sitting on that fence and not really wanting to be there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
