I am just trying to figure out if it is good jealousy like he deep inside wants it to work or bad jealousy where he is just ticked off because he doesn't want me but he also doesn't want anyone else to have me either?
I will clarify again.. It is NOT jealousy.. You don't even have another man and you aren't seeing anyone. It isn't jealousy UNTIL you are interested in someone else. THEN he would be jealous. What you have here is a man who is testing you and you keep failing the tests. Each time he asks you if you are seeing someone, he secretly wants you to reassure him that you are not. He wants you to say "no, I am not seeing anyone.
No different than a betrayed spouse asking the wayward spouse if they are seeing someone else. The betrayed is HOPING the wayward will say no. They are looking for reassurance that they aren't being left for another person. When the betrayed finds out there IS another person, THAT is when jealousy kicks in. Not before..
I will say it again.. Your best bet is to dump your wayward and move TOWARD a divorce. Let him FEEL and think and believe that you are DONE and happy to get on with your life. Total 180. I would recommend that you start going out and having the time of your life. Mingle with the opposite sex. Become like a wayward spouse.
Life is too short. Don't waste it on someone who can't or won't reciprocate that love. It isn't worth it and it does NOT work.
