still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Sometimes I also think sign the papers and if he ever wants back he'd have to start a whole new relationship with me anyways... Just something for you to think about.

This is a very good point. And we all know how much easier it is to get married than divorced....shouldn't both be equally difficult? If my old H returned then all we would need to do is pay some money for a legal form and get married by someone licensed. Easy as pie.

Instead my H left and would rather be with no one than me and his son. Sometimes I wonder if OW would make it easier for me to let go.

Maybe an OW would make it easier to let go for you. I don't know anyone who has been cheated on in my circle of friends or family so everyone that hasn't been affected says "I would leave the jerk." EVERYONE. I used to say that too.

BUT the benefit of your H being unattached is that the DB techniques might make more of an impact since he won't be "distracted" or "unavailable" because he is with another woman.