reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

W called tonight. I am trying to drop the rope and be NC while I am out of town. Have not talked to her all week, but she tells me she is crying constantly about the end of our M. Does not really have anyone to talk to. Does not trust me, thinks I am lying to her, and is obsessed over the details of things that have gone wrong in our M. She is very resolute about starting the D when I get back.

I am conflicted, as per usual. I want to drop the rope and let her get a reality check. However, she is determined to move forward with the D, to the point of examining finances to see where she will end up, so I doubt seriously my NC will be effective. Not sure she even wants to be in touch with me. Says she ends up crying everytime we talk.

On the other hand, trying to be there for her and assist her in her darkest, most depressed days has not been working very well either.

I am just massively frustrated, and don't know what path to take. I want to continue to be NC, but have a little voice inside me telling me to send her a brief email giving her support during her deep depression.

Wish I understood this. I cannot know the future. But just cutting off all contact does not feel right either. Am I totally off base here?

Comments would be most appreciated, and I would like to thank all of you for all your help. Your advice has been much appreciated.