Need 'How to' on exposure,,,, and balls to do it

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So now I have the wording down on the exposure. I’ve exposed to her BF who is all about helping us as a family. I just had dinner with FIL and his wife and explained it all to them. I am finally ready to do what needs to be done.

I’ve seen a lawyer and , know the different outcomes that this may lead to, some much more desirable than others, yet just knowing, allows me to detach enough to hopefully have a calm discussion of exposure and the choices that she needs to make(I think she has already made them, had the pre-nup in her car with her).

But at least I know that this will end one way or another sooner than later, and have come to grips with the fact that I may lose the love of my life.

I will 180, for that is all that I can do, because the alternative is to do things that would end up hurting my kids, and I will not have any part in hurting them, that will fall squarely on her, if she chooses the A over our family and me.

I know I will heal over time, but just like any other person that has been badly damaged mentally, physically, or emotionally, I will carry these scars forward. I’ve always taught my daughters that there are two ways to learn something, either by observing others mistakes and avoiding them, or to make your own mistakes and learn from them. So, I can only hope that if in fact our M doesn’t make it, that my daughters will learn something from this that will help them avoid the seemingly unending searing pain I am going through now.

Wish me luck, and send an extra prayer for us, we need all the help we can get these days.

I will continue posting after the exposure whatever the outcome.

Thanks for all the advice to this point.
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