Noticed this in your sig. So as you reconciled after the first bomb, did you follow some of the bad advice given here, like pretend that you're happy, speak positive, don't let him think that you're upset, don't chase or pursue?
Basically, did you act like what you thought HE wanted you to be. Instead of being honest and following your own heart, such as crying when you felt hurt?
I'm asking this because I'm starting to realize that people who follow some of these rules (I'm not saying all) just puts a band-aid over a broken leg. If you fake your personality to get him back, then sooner or later, you'll get tired of faking and you'll be having the same problems you did in the first place.
I see so many people say that if they acted how they truly felt, it would push their spouse away. But that's really a positive. I'd rather my spouse leave me for who I am than stay with a person whom I'm not.
Which is a long way of saying: What did you or your H not to make the marriage work?
