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[SDFoundGirl]

Jealousy is powerful, and I'd say it's useful to you. I wouldn't give him any reassurance at all. "H, I'm sorry, but that's really none of your business anymore since we are divorcing. Have a good evening!" All done in a breathy, cheery voice. Go out. Have fun. Come in late and giggling, preferably on the phone.

I stopped paying attention to my H and started going out and enjoying myself. I made new friends, and I had one who would always have me call to tell him I made it safely home when I reached my doorstep. I'd come in late, make enough noise so I knew H would wake up (he's a light sleeper), and keep whispering on the phone to him. He'd crack a joke, so I'd always laugh.

Know what? H started to pay attention. I also made sure I was BUSY and looked great all the time. Would go to the other room and make phone calls, started wearing cute nighties, and treated H like he was just some guy I shared a house with. Detached.

Don't worry about what your H thinks. Start living life and having fun. Find your ability to be happy all on your own, and that will give you your best shot.

SD