No OIN, that was a bad move.. I mean, your wife got home and asked you an honest question and you "got smart" with her.. you BOTH do it...

I don't think during that time block you really had much to complain about when you so recently had been a bit rude...

AND, I warned you that you wouldn't get much help if you confronted her

Sigh... just be the better man... She's feeling lousy and thinks expressing lousy comments is ok... but you both do it..

My advice is to just set a good example and keep doing it... Don't ask her to do teh same, he's just going to get defensive.. and she DID