I will absolutely go back over that exercise tonight. you are absolutely and completely correct, and thank you so much for the reminder of what I should have already known!! the timing is good; with my first new paycheck comes more financial and material security than I've had in years. surely that will be a factor in convincing Hoosiergirlie that I can take care of things!
yep, the little bratty kid has her sticky fingers all over that steering wheel; I've moved forward tremendously over the past couple of months, but there's still work to be done, obviously. as I was reminded enthusiastically the other day, I'm right on the cusp of...something! lol. vague, but obvious, and I am so ready to take that next step for myself.
thank you again, gardener.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012