gardener--the thoughtfulness and depth of your replies is truly humbling. thank you so much.

yes, I am so very proud of my daughter. she's an amazing kid who will grow into an even more amazing adult, I'm certain. the depth of her intuitive understanding and compassion is incredible.

as for the music teacher...she was once a colleague of mine. when I first started working at the church, she developed breast cancer--stage III. I changed dressings, did visits, brought food, researched comfort measures...and she has survived and is officially cured. I brought her flowers that day to celebrate. and she bullies my daughter...who knows why. there's a kid every year that she blesses and a kid that she bullies...I've watched it for 10 years. this year it's my daughter. and to confront it--oh, believe me I have. over and over and over. and officially it doesn't exist, isn't happening, and is somehow my fault or my daughter's. sick system there. so incredibly glad to be out of it.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012