And many others have successfully busted affairs, and reconciled. In my experience those that have taken the strongest stand have had the best result.
Lotus, you keep pointing out this ONE poster, as some sort of "proof" that aggressively busting affairs doesn't work. It's hardly a representative sample.
Opt, your wife is likely spinning to these people in her life in advance of you talking to them. I'd suggest letting those closest to you know the truth; it's not your job to lie to cover up your wife's affair.
