Optimust this is EXACTLY why you expose BEFORE you confront your wife and go to family therapy etc...
Whomever tells truth FIRST gets a LOT more credibility... your wife may suspect you are going to expose so she's covering everything HER way first... people having affairs VERY OFTEN DO this... tell everyone they are getting a divorce and introduce their "new friend" to everyone...
YOu have to get there FIRST.. the more you stall on this the more damage your wife potentially does to your efforts before you even start them
