D - DAY HAS ARRIVED

[lea74]

So overheard my XH chatting my sons tonite on the phone and he sounded a bit sad. He told them he missed them alot and that he loved. A small (very) part of me felt sorry for him.

Everyone the conversation comes up with him moving out, he always replies: I had not choice.

What does that mean?????


I dont drink, do drugs, have never ever cheated on him, dont steal, have never lied to him ( not even about some shoes I probably should have), I have always worked and contributed to the household. I turned a blind eye when he had inappropriate friendships. And yes we argued, who doesnt. The arguments we had the most, was about her and their 'friendship'. I decided not to turn a blind eye this time, did not tolerate the constant texting and phoning during our family dinners, parties, vacations etc.

I take full responsibility for my part I played in the break-up of our marriage - BUT I wanted to work on it and make it better. The biggest complaint from my XH was that I didnt put him first. When I asked him waht he meant, what he expected - he couldnt give me any examples. After alot of reflection I understood what he meant and started to work on it. (In my defence I probably did neglect him a little, maybe I was too comforable in our relationship - we have been together since we were 14years old and also he travelled alot so I was basically a single mom and was exhausted each time he came home.

Anyway, I made some changes - changes he even recognised. In fact the last 6 months before he moved out we had a great relationship, (in all areas) and then even after he moved out.

So why always the: I didnt have a choice?????